Writer's Block: Things You Don't Want to Know

[darkdreamer]

[Error: unknown template qotd]Really, I think 99% of the time I would tell. If you're a real friend, you're not going to let your friend get hurt if you can help it. My best friend is a guy, who recently got married, and someone actually asked me this recently, lol. I'm friends with him and his new bride, but I've been friends with him for about 13 years, and friends with her for like... a year, tops. So, if I found out she was cheating on him, I'd tell him in an instant. I wouldn't want to let him be made a fool of and hurt by her. Now, if he was the one cheating, though? Even though I'm friends with her? We'd probably be looking at an intense verbal smackdown from me to him -- "Are you *insane*? You idiot!! You'd better straighten up reeeeeal quick!" etc etc.

But... him being my best friend, close as a brother, would I rat him out to my other, lesser friend?

Er... probably not :(

Not that I think that would ever actually happen :P hehe

it's a complicated issue :P

Comments

[velvetwhip.livejournal.com]

It is complicated, isn't it?


Gabrielle

[dreamsofspike.livejournal.com]

very much so :-/

[jacobs-muse.livejournal.com]

Really is complicated.....what if you tell, only to find out they already know and decided to ignore it? Weird!

[dreamsofspike.livejournal.com]

right... it's a tricky situation anytime you mess with anyone else's relationship...

[masterfedora.livejournal.com]

See that's where you and I differ. I would most definitely rat out my bestest best friend in the whole world. Cheating is filthy pool no matter how long I've known a person.

[dreamsofspike.livejournal.com]

yeah, i agree... but i think sometimes i'd be too weak to do so... depends on how i felt about the person involved :( *sigh*

[ldyavalon.livejournal.com]

Hello hun! Long time no see :P

(I just had to butt into this one...) Problem is, if you tell a friend his/her partner is cheating on them, they're not gonna believe you. I know I didn't. I remember one of my cousins coming up to me and saying, I saw your b/f making out with another girl last saturday. I got really angry at her, telling her it was impossible.

So I never know if I should tell or not. Would you tell if you knew they wouldn't believe you and that you might lose their freindship over it?? That place in Egypt is overpopulated with in-love fools ;)

[dreamsofspike.livejournal.com]

yeah, i kind of feel like every situation is probably different... probably would go a little differently for different people.. thanx for commenting, love ;) *hugs*

[swirlsofblue.livejournal.com]

Tis complicated indeed. I'd probably tell the person who cheated to confess and tell them if they didn't I would have to.

[dreamsofspike.livejournal.com]

yes, that's probably the best option for all concerned :)

[carlyjacks.livejournal.com]

It's complicated but I think I would have to tell. I've had a little experience with this. I saw one of friends boyfriend at the mall coming out of a movie with another girl and kissing her. I told my friend and she ended up getting pissed at me and resenting me. She wouldn't even talk to after that.

I think if anything like this ever happens again. I think that I would confront the cheater and tell that had to tell the other person what happened or I would.

[dreamsofspike.livejournal.com]

the more i've thought about it, the more i think that's probably the best course of action whatever the relationship/closeness factor... give them a chance to come clean, then come clean for them if they refuse....

thanx for commenting, love :)